Dealing with Mom Guilt
Lately I have felt like a terrible mother.
Izzy has been going through a phase… I have been going through a phase… and there is so much to do and just not enough time to get even half of it done.
When Izzy is up it is a constant struggle on if I spend my time with her or if I get stuff done. And when she is asleep it is a struggle of do I get me time or do I do chores?
Sometimes I wish I had a remote like the movie Click so I could just pause time, do all my chores, and when time is un-paused I can just spend time with my baby girl and husband.
Not only do I always struggle with the housework, but I was sick a couple weeks ago and I still feel like I am recovering. On top of this I am still tired from my antidepressants… STILL. I think my body needs a little longer to heal from being sick (and hopefully the side effects of my medicine will go away) but I need to catch up with the housework. At this rate, though, it feels like it will never get done.
Also, for a few weeks now I keep telling myself I am going to take the girls (my daughter and the toddler I nanny for) to either the zoo or Disneyland. We keep not being able to go for one reason or another… I can’t help but feel so guilty that I want to do something nice for the girls and I keep not being able to.
And on top of all of this, all Izzy wants to do lately is cuddle and watch the Lion King… but she is still fussy even when we are doing what she wants. I try taking her out of the house and it is a struggle to keep her in a good mood (which is not how my baby girl normally is).
I keep losing my patience with her and after I get upset I am so angry with myself because I know she is acting this way because her teeth are hurting her. Teething is the worst!!
I am just dealing with so much mom guilt: guilt about not taking the girls out enough, guilt about having me-time, guilt about letting Izzy watch the Lion King on repeat while I get stuff done around the house, guilt about not going to church every Sunday due to schedule issues, just guilt about E V E R Y T H I N G .
When you’re a mom it is impossible to juggle everything perfectly.
There will always be dishes that need to be washed, laundry that needs to be folded and put away, activities you want to do with your kids. You will never be able to accomplish everything and that is okay.
You will lose your cool and need to take a “time out”. That is okay..
You can’t beat yourself up for being human. It is okay to feel, it is okay to let things pile up, and it is okay to take a break.
Every day I have to intentionally remind myself that it is okay to not be perfect. It is okay to not be able to get everything done. As long as you love your babies and you are doing your very best - that is good enough.