Mommy Motivation Series: It's Okay To Do Nothing
I’ve been feeling guilty about a lot of things lately, but one of the main reasons is because I have been doing a whole lot of nothing.
Up until a month ago, I was babysitting full-time, writing on my blog consistently (at least once a week) and was a pretty darn good homemaker. Now? I can barely even write a grocery list for someone else to do my shopping.
Things are slowly getting better (thank God for medicine), and I am returning to a somewhat normal state - but my house continues to suffer as I use all my energy to care for myself, Izzy and the pets during the day. It is now up to my husband to do the dishes (which we have almost completely switched to disposable utensils/plates/bowls), laundry, vacuuming, etc. Since he already works so much, it honestly breaks my heart to see him have to work so hard for us.
But the thing is, my guilt about “doing nothing” has always been there, it is just prominent at the moment due to our current situation.
As a stay at home mom (or just a mom in general), it is normal to feel guilty when you relax because you always have a to-do list a mile long. It’s hard to sit on the couch and ignore the dirty dishes in the sink. It’s hard to turn on your favorite show and sit down and do nothing but watch it when you really should be folding laundry.
And I get that you can multi-task, but sometimes YOU NEED TO DO NOTHING.
I always tell myself that I should be multi-tasking, when in reality it’s important to soak in a few moments during the day where you are doing absolutely nothing but relaxing.
There will always be a to-do list, always be things that need to be cleaned. You will always have a “job” to do. But as a mom, your most important job is to keep yourself and your children alive and happy - meaning sometimes you have to set aside some time to do nothing even if there is a sink full of dishes, or a mess that needs to be vacuumed.
And mama, if you can’t find time, MAKE IT. Because I can guarantee you have at least five minutes during the day when your children are preoccupied and you can sit on the couch scrolling through instagram or reading a book. Remember to care for yourself first, so you can properly care for others.
You also need to be realistic about the expectations you set for yourself.
The dishes will get done, the floors will get vacuumed, the laundry will get washed and folded eventually, but all of that is a never-ending cycle. So make sure you are pouring into yourself for your own sanity, and don’t be angry with yourself for not getting as much done as you would like.
I’m still getting back into the swing of things, and honestly I need to find my groove again when it comes to posting. I still can’t promise I will be consistent, but I can promise I will do my best! But I hope this ranty blog post made you feel a little better about taking some time to yourself. There’s a long list of things to do, but you should be first on that list.