Lessons in Motherhood - Izzy Turns Two
Welcome to my newest series!
This one will be like a couple of my other series, and will be ongoing as I go through life and learn new lessons in motherhood. I decided to start the series this week since my baby girl just turned two, and I have been reflecting on the past two years of being a mother.
The purpose of this series is to inspire mamas to stop and reflect on life from time to time, and really soak in each lesson you learn. I hope this series is as fun for you to read as it is for me to write!
On June 27th of 2017, at 6:22 in the afternoon, my precious first born was brought into this world.
Isabel Kalea Burton has been the most amazing little girl, and I am so blessed to be her mama and watch her grow.
Watching her grow up these past two years has been extremely bittersweet. There are moments where I could just sit there and watch her play for hours, wishing the moment would never end. And then there are times when I want the day to be over, and I can’t wait until she is old enough to do things on her own.
While reflecting on these past two years, there are quite a few lessons I have learned. Today’s lesson is more like a rant than a lesson (and full of cliche’s); but it was so necessary for this one to be the first one I write!
I want to break up this first lesson in motherhood into two parts… the first part that I would like to share is to remember that both you and your child are learning together everyday.
Every day my patience, energy, love and limits are tested. I am thrown in to situations where I have to think about how I am going to react to situations, since my actions are developing my daughter into the woman she will be some day. Motherhood is a huge responsibility!
And not only do my responses shape my daughter, but they shape my personality as well.
If you are in the habit of responding with love, intention, respect and patience, it will be easier to do it in the future.
As a mom, it is your job to raise your child to be the best person they can be. When you react to situations with the “right” response (notice I put “right” in quotations since every child is different, so there is no right way in parenting), you are helping them to develop into the best person they can be.
And I feel like I need to put this little disclaimer - there is a difference between nature and nurture. You can raise you child to be a specific way, and they could be completely different due to their nature. It is still your job to raise your job in a positive light. Now, back to the post!
Remembering how important being a mom is can be such a terrible thing when you feel guilty about playing the t.v. too much, not reading to your child enough, not taking them out of the house enough, etc. Mom guilt is frustrating and so common for all the mamas out there.
The second part of this lesson is to give yourself a break and stop feeling guilty when you don’t respond to situations perfectly.
I once read that mom guilt is the “guilt that keeps on giving”; how true is that?
I know you can’t help but feel guilty sometimes, but I have a few mantras I would like to share that help me when I feel mom guilt. Hopefully, these can take some weight off of your shoulders next time you feel guilty.
You are not perfect.
You are not going to be able to do everything.
You won’t handle every situation perfectly.
You will fail.
You will “screw up”.
But most importantly, you will learn from your mistakes, get back up, and try again.
Remember to give yourself the grace that you give to others - specifically to your children. You allow them to learn, grow and make mistakes daily. So remind yourself that it is okay for you to do the same, as long as you are changing in a positive light.
So, the full lesson I want to share is to remember that both you and your child are learning together everyday and give yourself a break and stop feeling guilty when you don’t respond to situations perfectly.
I hope this new series will bring some inspiration into your life. I also pray that this post was as good of a reminder for you as it was for me.